Control a difficult conversation

Many of us hate the idea of difficult conversations of any kind

Some of us hate them to the point where we just avoid them completely, leaving us missing out - see my other blog: the cost of avoiding difficult conversations

But if we change how we approach them - and let's be honest, sometimes you really just cannot avoid them! - then there are some things that you need to remember are actually in your control!

I am not your doormat

A huge number of us in this world are "people pleasers"

We love to help other people - but we often do it at the detriment of ourselves.

Do any of these sound familiar to you?

  • I need to be nice to people even if I'm in a bad mood

Conflict management

Most of us avoid conflict, mainly because it makes us feel really uncomfortable, and it can lead to any number of fears coming up in our brains….

But imagine how much easier life would be if you no longer felt the need to avoid situations just in case any conflict arose?

Do it for yourself, not because you 'should'

So you think you want to do something, be something, have something, change something…

Now ask yourself these series of questions (probably easiest if you write down your answers or talk them through with someone else):

Stop avoiding difficult conversations

With 70% of people avoiding difficult conversations and over 90% of employees reporting staying silent in challenging conversations over the last 18 months we really need to think of the personal cost to this avoidance.

There are a huge number of reasons that people avoid difficult conversations, but in the end most of them come down to some kind of fear:

Overcome resistance to change

I write a lot about how the only way to get away from something we don't like is to CHANGE.

But change is really hard!

There are several real reasons why change is hard and they're all down do how our brains are designed.