We had a tortoise when I was younger (a long story for another time) but the first time we saw him on his back in the garden, we panicked that he was stuck!
Many of us feel like my old tortoise George on the odd occasion, but sometimes we can get really stuck in feeling stuck!
Some of the things you might notice about yourself if you're feeling stuck
Do you find it hard to make decisions, and end up going round and round in circles, sometimes paralysed into doing nothing??
Are you awake in the small hours thinking "but what if…., what if…., what if….."
Do you often feel anxious?
Do you often feel stressed?
Does your stress / anxiety sometimes feel disproportionate to a rational list of what you have going on?
And do you then go a little further into the negative cycle of judging yourself because you think you should be able to cope? Or do you think everyone else copes better than you?
Well let me tell you a little secret...
Are you a perfectionist?
Do you know (or live / work with) a perfectionist?
How many of these sound familiar?
Comparison is part of life, it's instinctive (we're human) but it can also be pervasive & impactful in ways it does not need to be - comparisonitis!
I always struggled with comparison. You name it, I've compared myself, and interpreted external comparisons, and found myself lacking.
Words are so important!
But we can often fall into bad habits to stop ourselves feeling like we're being pushy, aggressive, demanding etc…
What we're actually doing in those cases is unconsciously putting ourselves down, and giving others permission to do the same.
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